Day 342 of writing every day.
If there’s anything bugging me about my hair right now it’s that my sides still haven’t grown out long enough to be tied back. They’re just floating around and have to be moved behind my ears but my hair doesn’t stay in place. I got a cut today to keep my hair length neat and even but otherwise I think I’ll need another month for them to grow long enough to tie back.
I hadn’t planned things out too great though so I forewent the head massage after the cut just so I can join a machi-kon I signed up for last minute. I don’t have any expectations I’ll meet anyone interested in me or that I’ll find interesting, but my chances are zero if all I do is spend this Sunday I have free at home all day.
Given that it’s getting cold and in Japan finding a partner for Christmas is something many people seem to want, I think there might be more people joining these types of events. However, the success rates of finding a romantic partner through these events seems pretty low though from some articles I’ve read. The organizers of events will of course, advertise that people found someone they liked by attending their events.
But something I’ll need to work on by attending these events is the ability to chat up strangers. I hate idle chatter in a competitive environment where men are vying for the attention of as many women as they can where it’s a matter of getting as much Line contact info as possible to them versus trying to find someone you earnestly want to try dating. I get tired just trying to converse with a few different people to be honest, and it seems only certain types of men that use basically the same kind of approach meet with success.
In conclusion, maybe I’m trying out the wrong type of event to try and find a romantic interest. The workplace is a terrible idea to try in my opinion, and I’ve met with zero success with apps so far. So I thought why not give machi-kon a try. The big crowded events aren’t for me though if I have to reflect on today’s experience.
When people are inconsistently grouped it gets very hard to make conversation i.e. if you attend alone, you’re going to have a more difficult time striking up conversation with women who come in pairs or groups of three or more because they feel safer with a friend and have the added benefit of some fun just having a friend along.
When friends are happy enough chatting with each other, it’s difficult for one guy to cut in and catch their attention unless one is a seasoned smooth talker. I think my chances will be better where people are shuffled table by table so that they have a more equal chance of chatting with people without trying to find someone who’s open. It’s especially discouraging when you work up the courage to chat to someone who also happened to come alone and find they have zero interest in conversing with you even though the purpose of the event is to mingle.
Well, I guess I’ll just have to keep trying but in smaller pools even if that means having less people to potentially try my luck with.
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